A Faith-based Relationship Building Workshop for Men

Finding Freedom to Forgive: Relational Reconciliation

by Lance Echo-Hawk, MA
EchoHawk Counseling (www.ehcounseling.com)

Healing Our Relationships

Purpose: to take part in a group united around the biblical concept of reconciliation: making peace with God and others, including making peace with ourselves. This workshop, Finding Freedom to Forgive, is intended to explore and address the roadblocks in our relationships with God, self, and others that are barriers to spiritual growth and formation. Suggested topics include the biblical concept of reconciliation, spiritual formation (for sustainability), processing the wounds that bind us, identifying personal fears that interfere with taking action steps, and concrete, attainable goal-setting. The following are some of the key elements of the workshop:

          Understanding the healing power of repentance and confession
          Understanding the role of forgiveness and grace
          Living from strength (verses fear and anger)

Spiritual formation:
          Prayer, contemplation/meditation, practicing presence
          Spiritual formation and human maturity

Wounds that bind us:
          Learning why some injuries resist healing
          Recognizing and understanding trauma bonds
          Learning healthy boundaries in our relationships

          Identifying personal and collective goals
          The nature of community
          Creating ongoing support and encouragement

Relational Reconciliation

Reconciliation perhaps can best be understood in relational terms. We as human beings were meant for a peaceful world of healthy relationships--with God, self, others and the world around us. Relational reconciliation simply means finding a way to heal broken relationships. Broken relationships mean broken hearts. The format of this workshop will provide the structure for us as we seek to follow God's pathway through grief that leads to forgiveness, the doorway to reconciliation.

Workshop Sample Material:
Click here for sample 10 week workshop outline.

Workshop Format

Rpg (Reconciliation Process Group, (see rpg overview chart), is a process-group model designed to treat historical trauma in a recovery center setting. The rpg model as described at the above link has been adapted to provide the structure for this proposed workshop. The core elements of rpg are truth telling, listening, change through healthy grieving (as a roadmap to healing), internal restructuring and integration, forgiveness, and unity through peace and reconciliation, when reconciliation will do no harm to self or others. These are core principles people have used around our world today to address the social wounds caused by societal trauma. Rpg makes the claim that the human healing process is a natural and God given process that has recognizable markers along the pathway to healing. This program will teach these markers (using the rpg elements of healing) over an 8-12 week period to lay a foundation for the healing wounds that block reconciliation.

Introduction to rpg Concepts

Rpg attempts to model a natural healing process. The idea is to bring balance to an out-of-balance "system." The system is our relationship world; how we live and relate to ourselves, God, and others. When the system is balanced the result is transformation.

There are six principles that stand within the rpg model. These principles are in pairs: Truth and Listening, Change and Integration, and the last pair is Dignity and Unity. Each pair forms an axis and each axis is seeking balance. Axis-One seeks to balance Truth and Listening. Axis-Two balances Change through a grief proces with Reintegration though internal restructuring, and Axis-Three balances Dignity found Unity based on peaceful relationships.The work done on Axis-One propels us into work on Axis-Two, and the work done on these two axes come to fruition on Axis-Three. Understanding this process is the goal of this workshop.

Balancing the system is the work of the rpg model. It will likely involve making friends with aspects of yourself that have been difficult and painful. It could become a powerful journey leading to healing, change, and transformational living.

Treating Multigenerational Wounds

This faith-based workshop is designed to address generational wounds (such as depression, anxiety, PTSD from childhood trauma, anger, fears, or grief) in a respectful and constructive way. Healing and changing unrecognized generational wounds (such as substance abuse, addictions, violence, mental health issues, and broken relationships that affect generations to come) often means dealing with emotional pain that has been onboard a long time and is still interfering with our lives. The dialogue we need for healing often breaks down before effective action can happen because of the unresolved emotional pain. The roadblocks to change can be highly charged emotionally. In this group a facilitator will lead the workshop to maintain the structure and an emotionally safe environment so we can reach our workshop goals.

Fees For Service

EchoHawk Counseling fees for rpg workshop services are $15 per hour per person. The sessions in this proposal are 2 hours, or $30 per each member for each session attended. For 1 person at $30 each session, x 8 sessions spread over 8 weeks = $240; as a workshop estimate per person. (Workshop lengths can vary from 8-to-12 weeks.)

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